9 Reasons I’m Glad to be 35
“Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant
to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.”
-Heath L. Buckmaster
When I was younger I used to look at myself in the mirror and wonder what I would look like at 35. Why 35? I can’t really say except at the time I thought 35 was really old. I guess at 10, 11, and 12 years old it is. Now that I am 35 I think that I look strong, wise, refined, grounded, and assured that the best is yet to come. I feel this way because at
35 I am finally doing things the way I want to…wholeheartedly. But it took me a long time to get to this point. There were a lot of unnecessary and incorrect lessons that I had been taught that needed to be unlearned. As a child and young adult I always thought about how others perceived me. So much so, that I was not always true to myself regarding my needs and wants. I was trying to live up to other’s perceptions and expectations of who they thought I was or should be. At this point I’m living my life unapologetically because I don’t have time to regret. The following realizations have brought me to this point – that I’m glad to be 35 – and and hopefully you can relate. If not, maybe you’ll be set free by what I’ve shared too.
It feels liberating to…
…finally feel satisfied with all of who I am, my flaws and all. As you get older the box that people try to put you in gets smaller and smaller. You begin to care less about what people think of you and more about walking your own path to their dismay or not.
…no longer feel the need to provide explanations for the choices I make. Your life does not need to make sense to anyone!
…truly learn the value of going with the flow. When things are not forced they seem to naturally fall into place. The moment you try to force it – it doesn’t fit.
…recognize when I need to fall back and relax. Just because someone rubs you the wrong way does not mean they have a problem with you. They might be having a bad day. Tell the ego to chill.
…give of myself and resources when and how I want to. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad because you either couldn’t help them or didn’t want to for whatever reason. You can’t help everyone and no one knows your situation. It is what it is.
…no longer feel crazy for questioning things that I’ve been taught about religion or social norms, for example. Listen, no one knows everything, in fact, no one knows anything…really. Some people are just louder so it seems like they know a lot.
…know that things will happen if you continue to work hard and believe. You just have to take it one step at a time, one idea at a time, one piece at a time, one moment at a time, one day at a time. You will get there but you have to keep going.
…learn the importance of doing things as soon as I can do them once and for all. It sucks to realize that you wasted time when you could have at least begun or accomplished an important task. My grandmother used to tell me, “you better do what you CAN do today”.
…know that it is okay to work towards a goal that could change my entire life and help others along the way. Everything you do doesn’t have to be selfless. You should enjoy what you do and not feel bad about it. Forget what others think or say. Live the life YOU want to live!
“Your own Self-Realization is the greatest service you can render the world.”